Happy Sunday everyone, I hope you are having a great weekend so far. As promised I have one final instalment to share in my series, “Soul to Skin – An Exposé on Fat Love”. I hope you have enjoyed the series as much as I have, it was a wonderful way to celebrate the blog’s 3rd anniversary. It was very personal to me and provided the opportunity to discuss some issues that are near and dear to my heart. When I started my blog it was going to be just about the fashion but I quickly realized that I couldn’t just stop there, that I had a voice and I had so much more to share. And while it can be painful and emotional at times to share myself and my journey, I wouldn’t have it any other way.
I have loved all of the lingerie that I have shared during this series but this final look is my personal favourite and I have honestly been dying to share it, I really had to be patient with myself lol. It’s my favourite because I helped create it and because it is the ultimate representation of my personal style. I think anyone that knows me will see this look and know it is Lisa. And I was able to have this moment because of the amazing women behind the brand Impish Lee. If you recall I have already shared one look from this customizable brand, the glorious peach and white lace bralette and high waisted panties. Well Noelle also helped me create this dream look and I couldn’t be happier with it.
My photographer Katie, is an expert in boudoir and when we brainstormed what types of looks I should do she started suggesting all of these amazing things and colours that would look good with my skin tone and my immediate thoughts were this sounds amazing, I mean I love a wide range of colours, prints, textures and fabrics. But then when I started my search for the pieces for this series I was immediately discouraged by the lack of options in my size. Thankfully I realized that Impish Lee was going to be a great option to try. As I mentioned in my other post Impish Lee is size inclusive offering sizes 0 to 30. You also have the option to have it made to your exact measurements so technically there is no size range! And if you look at their size chart you will see that it is a true plus size fit. I have seen a few new lingerie brands popping up in my Instagram feed lately that say they carry up to a size 6x and when I go and look at the size chart that translates to a size 20 and all I can think is what a joke that is. For once in my life I wanted something that was true to size, made of quality and luxurious fabrics and was a beautiful and unique design.
In the end this set that we created far surpassed any expectations I had. I have never felt so beautiful, sensual, sultry, sexy, and powerful as I did in this. The soft powder blue colour is exactly what I wanted, its feminine and romantic and works perfectly with my complexion. I loved combining the texture of the sheer mesh and the lace for the gown, it created depth and depending on what angle you look at it, it exposes different lights and shadows on your body. And the design for the bust is supportive but comfortable. I love how it defines my breasts without having underwire. The straps are fully adjustable and the low scoop in the back accentuates the curves of my body perfectly. I choose to go with a natural colour lace for a softer feel than white. The robe is light and airy, it compliments the gown but doesn’t hide its beauty. The short sleeves were the perfect choice for me because it kept me cool and comfortable. I highly recommend giving the Design Your Own tool a try. You get to choose the lining to match your skin tone, then you choose your design, your fabrics and finally your finishes. And throughout the process you get to see your design come to life on the screen. I loved playing with the different options that were available and seeing how that would impact the final design. The possibilities are endless with over 50 fabrics to choose from including lace, mesh, velvet and limited novelty prints.
I called this post Dare to Dream because as I reflect on this series and the 3 years I have been blogging I realized that when we stop dreaming we stop living. My life has not turned out exactly how I imagined it. While I have had many successes there are still some dreams that I feel have gotten away from me. I don’t know if I will ever become a partner in my Firm which is something I always thought I wanted and now I question and I don’t know if I will finally find the love of my life and get married. But I do know that I will stay open to the possibilities because I learned to love myself for who I am and I made new dreams, I have accomplished some, and I continue to make new ones. Sometimes I question what would have happened if I had done this when I was 30 and not 40, how would life be different? But I know that my 30 year old self would not have embraced this opportunity like my 40 year old self has. I lacked the confidence to believe it was possible. I think my destiny was to do this now, at a time in my life when I am confident in my point of view and my voice and I am not afraid to be me, to live in the moment and to enjoy life to the fullest. It’s hard not to live with regrets, I wish I had been more open to love when I was younger and I question if I have continually sabotaged myself to this very day. I think that will be something I have to examine closer in the coming months. But in the meantime I always remain open to what life has in store for me next and know that what is meant to be will be. I hope I encourage you to dream the most amazing dreams. xoxo Lisa