Not About You

Happy Wednesday blogger fam, we are getting closer to the weekend and I can’t wait, I hope you are having an awesome week!  And yes I know I probably sound like a broken record but after the hectic busy season we had I am really going to enjoy the little bit of quiet time we get during the summer.  Another day in July means I have another instalment in my “Soul to Skin – An Exposé on Fat Love” series for you.  This post is going to be short and sweet as I like to say but it is a very important topic that I feel needs to be addressed.  So here goes nothing…

Dear Men of Instagram and Facebook, this is a public service announcement for you:  you may be surprised to hear this but my photos are not meant to please you, I am not giving you permission to objectify me, to hyper sexualize me or to fetishize me.  My account, my blog and my mission have absolutely nothing to do with you, PERIOD.  It is about empowering women and sharing my self love journey in hopes to inspire other women and young girls to live their best life no matter their size.  If I post a picture in a sexy outfit that is about me feeling empowered and stepping outside of my comfort zone.  And for this lingerie series it is about something very near and dear to my heart – body and size diversity.  I am here to promote a positive image of women my size who are often made to feel ashamed of themselves, to hopefully make an impactful change on how society views us.

Mustangsallytwo x SexyPlus Clothing

I did have some concerns when I decided to do this series because I was apprehensive about how much unwanted male attention it would receive and I didn’t want that to overshadow the true meaning of the project.  I am very thankful that for the most part, my male followers have been very respectful and supportive.  And for those of you who are regular followers and ones that I choose to interact with, this is not directed at you.  In fact, I will address why I like having you as part of my community in an upcoming post in the series.  This is for those that send me unwanted male genitalia photos in a DM (grounds for an automatic block), call me a tease, comment on how big my boobs or butt are, who ask me to send them naked photos of me, use emojis as a method of conveying disgusting messages and think that it is ok to call me baby.  For the record, there is nothing that I personally hate more than being called baby or babe because FYI I AM NOT YOUR BAE!  And my favourite one this week was the guy who decided to take the time to post a comment on my blog telling me what he wanted to do to me and then proceeded to recommend that I should be a porn star, that OMG (as if I didn’t know this already) a lot of men love a girl my size and I could be a porn supermodel.  Like honestly, are you kidding me?  You clearly have never read a thing I wrote and only looked at a photo because if you did you would know how insulting a comment it was.

I did to choose to become a blogger and an influencer and I know that means that I have opened myself up to the court of public opinion. But it does not give anyone the right to harass me or anyone else for that matter.  So all I ask is that you think before you speak.  We are human beings that deserve respect.  And for all the women and men who come to my support and help put these trolls in their place, I say thank you so much, I truly appreciate it!

Now about this look…  This is another baby doll from the VX Intimates line now available at SexyPlus Clothing .  I love the soft cream colour and floral print.  It is soft and feminine and something I would wear just because.  If you have had a chance to check out the collection I would love to hear what you think.  The new pieces should be arriving any day!  And don’t forget, SexyPlus ships internationally so all my followers from around the globe can try it out.

Thank you to Katie of Katiuska Idrovo Photography for the experience of a lifetime.  I love that you see the beauty in women of all shapes and sizes.


  1. Lisa, you are so beautiful inside and out! The men of Instagram can be pretty terrible and I can only imagine how much of that you deal with given the size of your following.

    I’m so glad you don’t allow them to stop you from sharing your inspiring journey! ❤️

  2. David Cellier (dave) 1 year ago

    Well done Lisa! first of all know that you are one of the best bloggers of size acceptance. I am only a man but I am convinced that you transmit a lot of well-being to all these women who have a hard time accepting themselves as they are…
    how can these people be so stupid!And the word is weak. I’m really sorry that this men can be so horrible, he does not represent the male genre.

    a body is just beautiful especially when it is worn by such pretty outfits/lingerie. you are a winner and nothing can reach you do not forget it.

  3. Ann Prawl 1 year ago

    Lisa, this is amazing. I always talk to my 15 year old daughter about your confidence and how I admire you for that. Keep on doing what you are, there are so many of us who you are a champion for. These so called men are boys, they hide behind their tag lines/stage names because they are not man enough to own up to their disrespect for women, so we can call them out. It’s funny how they like to put us in a box.
    I look forward to reading your blogs.
    Have a great Summer!

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      mustangsallytwo 1 year ago

      Thank you so much Ann!! I hope you have an awesome summer too 💜

  4. Melissa 1 year ago

    I am so glad you addressed this common issue. I myself had the same issue when I tried to break into the Instagram world 5 yrs ago. The post were so vulgar and disrespectful, causing me to close my account. I think you are so brave and strong for voicing this. I am sending you good vibes and thoughts, you are truly an inspiration. ❣️

  5. Kristi 1 year ago

    Great post, Lisa! I know I’ve told you before that your confidence has helped shape my own somewhat since we are a similar size. I don’t really want to make my Instagram completely private because I have met some great accounts there but I have done a couple of experiments and get the weirdest follows after I have commented or liked posts of plus size Instagrammers. It’s kind of creepy so I can only imagine the kind of crap you get.

    Now, onto this lingerie! I love that this is soft and feminine but still sexy as hell! I feel like this is a style I would actually wear because it’s not so restrictive and clingy. Also am in love with the smoky eye you have going on here. 🙂

  6. Barby Bryant 1 year ago

    Lisa, I literally cried tears of happiness and comfort when I came across your blog. We have very similar body size and shape and seeing your photos was such an inspiration. I hadn’t worn a skirt in 14 years because I was so self conscious about my legs and I missed it. I missed feeling “pretty” and not worrying what other people would think. Because of you and your inspirational words I went shopping at my local fabric store ( I love to sew and for the first time in years decided to make something for myself) and found a lovely floral print and made myself a circle skirt. I paired it with a black tank top- showed my arms-, a pair of black flats and wore it to a family wedding. I felt amazing and you know what? I really and truly didn’t care what anyone else thought, my husband and I had a fabulous time. I got so many compliments but it wasn’t the skirt it was me, my attitude and my comfort with who I am. Thank you for being who you are and sharing through your blog and thank you for not letting negative, in my opinion disgusting, trolls stop you.

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      mustangsallytwo 1 year ago

      Thank you so much for this! Messages like this are what inspire me and motivate me to do what I do 😘

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