Happy hump day peeps, I hope you are all having a fantastic week! I have to admit that this week is definitely challenging me, I don’t remember the last time I have felt so unmotivated and disenfranchised. I feel like nothing is going right and every time I turn around I get hit with another problem to solve. But alas I try to keep plugging through. A special thank you to everyone on Facebook who sent me positive vibes last night and today, I truly appreciate it.
This post is a special one because it features a look that I definitely never saw myself wearing. But sometimes people see you in a different light then you see yourself and it makes you question how you see yourself. I was fortunate enough to have breakfast with Gabi Gregg when I was in LA this past August. During breakfast she shared a sneak peek with me of some of the new pieces from the Premme fall collection and one of them was this dress. She looked at me and said I think this would look fantastic on you and I immediately said yes but with a slip and not the body suit. And she looked at me and said whatever your comfort level is but you totally can rock the body suit…
Mesh and see through pieces have been a huge trend this year and plus size babes all around have been changing the conversation and wearing them with body suits or bras and panties underneath and exposing as much skin as they want. Its an empowering move for a group of women who have been told their entire lives to cover up. And while I like to think I have been pretty progressive in the trends that I have been willing to try, I have to admit that there are still things that make me uncomfortable. And having my thighs on full display is definitely at the top of the list.
So when the Stella dress came out I decided that I owed it to Gabi who showed so much encouragement and myself to step outside of my comfort zone and take another step on my self love journey. What I had to realize was that the world was not going to end because I showed my thighs and that if I keep asking the women that reach out to me to try something new then that means I have to keep going too.
The other obstacle I had to overcome was showing a little bit more of my sexy side. I often struggle with how much to share because I could post a picture in a conservative look and inevitably I will get comments about how sexy I am so if I post something with this much skin, then god only knows what will happen. But again I am holding back on a part of who I am out of fear. Because while I am overall pretty conservative, I do as any women does have the part of me that is inherently sexy. And I realized that I hadn’t let that fully show in quite a while.
Its important to remember that as woman we are multi faceted unique individuals and while certain sides of us are going to be more dominant than others in our every day lives, it doesn’t mean that we don’t have the right to express them all when we feel like it. And as our lives evolve and change some may become more prevalent then they were in the past. I know that I am much more comfortable in my skin in my forties than I was in my twenties.
I love this dress because it is a sexy but pretty look. The beautiful sheer lace has a lovely pattern and is oh so feminine. And once you combine that with the criss cross ruffle at the bust, the girly factor goes way up. And the lace combined with the thick velvet straps feels extra lux. The fact that they are adjustable is just plain smart.
I am wearing the 5x in the dress and it is very form fitting. Because I carry most of my weight in my hips and thighs I expected this from something that has a body con shape. If you are shaped like me and would like a little more room, you might want to consider sizing up.
Pieces that are pretty and sexy but also practical score major points in my books. I cannot tell you how excited I was when I found out that the bodysuit was completely separate from the dress. So often you will find that pieces like this have the bodysuit built in which reduces the number of options you have for how you want to wear it and it can also make for fit challenges. And let’s not forget how nice it is not to have something attached when you have to go to the washroom.
The bodysuit is made out of a soft jersey knit and also has adjustable straps. I found the fit was very generous and I had finally found a bodysuit that I felt comfortable wearing. It will be perfect for pairing with other pieces that I have in my closet. And for the days where I don’t want to be super sexy? I can easily through on a slip for full coverage under this dress. It would also look great underneath a pencil skirt with a pretty black bra.
I wanted to keep my accessories pretty simple so I went with my basic peep toe pumps and some pops of silver in these earrings from Lane Bryant and bracelet from Avenue. And of course a little bit of sparkle with this bag from Aldo. And if you wanted to add some coverage to this look you could easily add a layering piece such as a chic trench coat or blazer.
This look isn’t going to be for everyone and that’s okay because what matters is how I feel and I feel powerful and sexy in this look. This is definitely something I would wear on vacation for my hunny where what you do on vacation stays on vacation, right?